Friday, October 24, 2014

Somewhere in the Middle....

Sometimes it is easier to write when things are either really going well or just the opposite. is ALWAYS easier (at least for me) to conjure up a stream of thought when in the swing of the pendulum, one way or the other.

 When in the harmony, in balance and equilibrium, so much peace is found that one often forgets to write it down...I do...I forget.  Perhaps it's best to just enjoy the peace, enjoy the moment, as so many poets and sages have recommended...and yet several weeks have passed since sharing my space, since writing the words down, that I feel compelled and even inspired by the middle - - to communicate what is in my heart and current screen, unfolding.

I find myself in a land, familiar to my past knowing, known to my family, and yet foreign to me now.  I sit in wondering at how I am still here, scanning the horizon for signs of movement elsewhere and yet, still, the moment says - stay.

I can only assume I have clearing yet to do, that there are bonds yet to form, to heal, love yet to expand in this place, else I would not find myself here....continually now.  As I think back to the land of green, the home of my heart and the place where I find solace in a family of souls - I know that it is still there that I find comfort and singing...and so, at the request of my own spirit, no doubt, I have brought myself out of the land of my heart into a place where discomforts arise daily and feelings that resemble loneliness rise up in me for lack of a multitude of those who would deeply understand me and say yes to the words flowing out of me in any direction.


Here, I am among strangers, in face and in heart.  Yes, we are all One - for sure we are - and so I am grateful for an opportunity to see another side of the multi-faceted reality of which I am a part and only one perspective of.  I have, for so long, spent life with those who share the same side of the gem...and here I sit on the opposite face and I wonder how it is I am to be with them.  ? ?
"In love!!"  - - my heart cries.  "In unity!!" --my mind says.  To break the bonds of separation and find that here too there is only ONE heart beating....only One LIFE.


This is the truth that wells up inside of me at the asking of these questions.  Still, it is a challenge to sit inside a largely dogmatic bubble, one that creeps in at me from every side, and hold my knowing of the One.  Sometimes I feel anger, sadness, resentment...and yet, these are slowly burning away to the layer where I know peace where I find the calm to stare into the storms and seemingly opposing views and see the sameness residing there.  For it is everywhere if we can but see it.

It is always easier to be with those who are of "like-mind" - yes.  And ultimately, perhaps that is still where I so long to be, to raise my kids and spend my days, years, life.  But if I can gracefully sit between thoughts I do not resonate with and smile.  If I can hold hands with what any might call disagreement....isn't this the truest test of unity?  For it is easy to be with those like us...and comfortable.  And nice.   But, when faced with the task of loving the least of these...the bigness inside must be found....and must be found immediately before the chance is lost to unite the differences through love.
So here I sit, stand, dance, stretch, eat - - in the Middle..... in more ways than one.

I am not too "high" today...I am not "low" reality, I think neither truly exists...only painted tiles of experience that would lead us to believe so.  Instead, I sit in the calm.  . . and in the calm, I realize I sit in the middle of worlds all around me... I sit next to those whom I do not know and do not seem to agree with, and those I know, yet find challenge with, I sit next to loved ones in spaces we jointly feel discomfort in with only each other in which to know retreat...can I find love here too?  Can I find a way to unite us all?  That is my challenge today.

I ask for the power of the new moon...and Scorpio - the great transformer - - into which we have just entered her door - - to take me by the hand and lift me up above my former a transcendental state of compassionate love - here and NOW.

Wherever you are today, whether with those with whom you share vision, beliefs and perspective, or that on the grand scale - or simply in your movings around this the store, the car wash, the bank...and what-not...let it be in our consciousness to merge with those we seem most distant the heart - to recognize that we are One - all of us.  For I truly believe that if and when we can do this, when I can, that this world will shatter of its separation in a melding that brings all nations together...miraculously....and we will know on a grand scale, the love we know in our hearts now - simply at the prospect of it.

Let us walk the middle line and pull in both sides around us like a blanket... Let us combine opposites and find the canceling of them to reveal what has always been so - - only One.

I love you -  - and thank you for walking the middle line with me today.

In peace and harmony,

Stasia Bliss

Monday, October 13, 2014

Anniversary Perspective...

Yesterday, 2 years ago, I was selling Never the Same Chocolate with one of my best girlfriends at the New Thought Center for Spiritual Living hosted Gypsy Soul Concert.  As I packed up the brightly colored foils to take to the center I had no clue how my life was about to completely change forever.

The music tuned and an unknown man came into my field speaking the words "cacao" which I replied "cacao?"....Who was this guy and what was he talking about?  Yes, I had cacao...but did I know him?

Apparently I had met him briefly 2 months prior and given him a sample of my chocolate...and now he was back, and he had remembered as much, though I did not recognize him - short the gigantic beard he previously sported.

After many comments of on-lookers wondering if he was my 5 year old son's father, since they looked so much alike, I finally decided to follow the inner voice that kept urging me to "ask him to leave with me"....and we've been walking a crazy path together ever since.

By crazy, I do mean crazy.  It seems we've been through so much - perceived "good" and "bad" and yet here we still continue to walk, run, jump, laugh and cry plus one more addition to our little family.
I have had my share of relationships, and nobody before this man has pushed me to step into my "best" version more than this one...though not always successful on my part.  I have witnessed myself in my "worst" version time and again as all of my stuff surfaces for the of the main purposes I believe a relationship to be for.  Still, we walk on together.

Honestly, had I not witnessed a similar explosive union between two of my closest friends and watched them work through the muck and tears into the magic, I would not believe it to be fact, I would believe, on some level, that this was wrong, that I should move on and find someone more conducive to the matching I desired in my heart...and yet here we are, joined by fate and choice, to continue walking, now with two small boys to watch over.

The new addition, our son together, has placed a unifying energy between us, that no matter our disagreements and the tension we some times often feel, we are drawn back into the love of parenting and find our way through the trials and mishaps, the words and the occasional anger, to peace and reunion.

If I looked at life from a lower perspective, I would not be able to understand the alchemy working out here...though I see it.  We have chosen to step into the sacred fire of relationship, and I am learning, with such a step, comes the opportunity to cleanse not only inner karmic mud and beliefs, but family and generational patterns that no longer serve the world.  As conscious beings, we are asked, time and again, to not take the "hard times" personally, but to hold one another up in the honoring light of understanding as we singly and mutually purge the negativity for the all for which we represent. To transcend and alchemize what is coming up, what is coming through.  To be the next higher version.

 Not always easy or fun work.

Living in the presence of my family, it has sometimes come up that we ought to "marry" legally, and announce our love publicly...though this union, this thing runs deep...perhaps beyond what we could do or say on the level of worldly marriage.  Admittedly, I sometimes wish we were capable to live simply on that level and just be "man and wife" and not all this other deep escoterical stuff...and yet, we both signed up for this life, and we both are so much deeper than we can escape.

As the evening prior to our 2 year mark came quickly to a close, and I pondered what I might say to this one, if asked to give vows...if I felt to do such a thing...if I wanted to share what I saw...I asked myself how it might sound... and this is what came ~

"What can I call you Love?
                                    Friend, partner, confidant, companion, husband, brother, guide, equal?.
                                           Fellow traveler & trail blazer, father to my children, 
                                                  lover of all things good?~!
 I could call you Blessed, Beloved, Co-creator, my mirror, reflection, goat-getter, the one I share with, who I care for, the light I count on...he who pushes me.

I could call you Good, Stalwart, Courageous, Adventerous, Caring, Consistently standing in presence.  You are he who sits in the still and stands in the chaos and seeks to ever move onward at my side...

I have felt every which way, for you and with you, which makes me know I can withstand anything we face and embrace all we are given together.
I do not promise 'for better or worse' for we would not be standing here today had we not endured both.  The pain has carved us deeper, and the joy has lifted us higher.  And in these - All that we are capable of spans eternity in every direction.
With you I have tasted every texture of living and I know we can only ever, like a fine cheese or wine, get better with time.

No promise I could ever make with my lips would speak more than my heart has, than my spirit does.  Yours & mine have met in union on multiple unspoken dimensions, and no human understanding or ordinance could ever trump what our souls know and experience.

I am grateful for the opportunity to continue to grow with you, to share life and love and all manner of things with you.  I only vow to continue bettering myself and shedding that which does not serve the greater good - - in your presence.  I vow to Love more than Fear until fear no longer remains."

And So It Is.

May these words...spoken of the union I find myself in, assist others on their sojourn.

May love prevail, always.



Thursday, October 2, 2014

Redefining Relationship...the Podcast

If you didn't catch the Spreaker I spoke about Relationship as a reflection of the Self as explained in depth in my book "Redefining Relationship: A New Paradigm for Evolved Interaction, Intimacy and Self At-One-Ment" available through my website and on

Listen to the show HERE.

Have you been looking for "the perfect mate" or wishing your partner was something more? This broadcast sheds new light on this whole predicament and how to move into resonance now and have the relationships we desire.

Thank you for reading & listening.

I'm Stasia Bliss & this is Bliss in the House!